Still in Disbelief- Disrespect as it's MAX

One thing that I have been boiling over and can't seem to let go is when a man allows his best friend to openly disrespect his wife! Yep, you read that right. I am that woman who was recently disrespected by my husbands best friend. Every marriage will have it's ups and downs! I feel that if a man loves his wife, he'd do everything to protect her. He would NEVER allow someone to do this. 

My husband and I were having a typical argument within our marriage. Things were said that we didn't mean. It even came close to one of us leaving. However, this didn't concern my husbands best friend. 

On the 9th of November, I was getting my son ready for church when I got these messages from my husbands best friend:

Let me explain what is being talked about: This friend (which I'm going to name Donkey) needed a ride to pick up his car in another state about an hour away. My husband did not tell me that he agreed to help until just a few minutes before Donkey showed up. I had made plans with Sunshine for the day where she'd be able to spend it with her Daddy. Needless to say, that didn't happen. Not only that but Hubby left here and forgot some VERY important things that I needed for the kids. Of course this didn't leave me happy.

Now, as for the kids. Up to this point, I felt as if my Husband didn't want our marriage any longer. However, this wasn't anyone's concern, except for ours. We have had fights before and my emergency plan is to go to my Mothers. Of course I would take my children with me because their father couldn't have them with the way he works. He works too much to give them the proper attention. Where this is Donkey's business??? Beats me! 

Needless to say I followed his advice and removed any and ALL contact I had with him. Not only was he supposed to be my husbands friend, he was supposed to be mine as well. Here I am thinking I am being a friend to him when I am keeping a secret of his. She's pregnant after a miscarriage, so I didn't want to add any more stress to her. 

When I addressed this situation with Hubby, he told me that Donkey was allowed to have his own opinion. He said that this was okay. WHAT!!! How in the world is it okay for him to talk to me like that? I'm writing this post because it hurts me. To this day, Hubby still talks to Donkey like nothing happened, all the while I'm still hurting over what was said.

1. I am a very loving and caring person. Example: I opened my home to Donkey on multiple occasions when he had no where else to go.

2. Sorry, Sir but it seems as if you have a thing for drama. If you truly knew me, you'd know that I am the type of person who avoids it at all costs. I have my own drama in my life... I don't need you adding to it. 

3. If you are going to tell me what my God thinks of me... perhaps you should get it right! Go read the Bible and then come talk to me. My God is a very forgiving God and doesn't hold a grudge. He knows that his people will have attacks on their marriages from Satan. However, since we turned to the Lord once again, we are doing just fine.

I am NOT the House Maid.....

One thing that I think my family has set in their mind is that I'm not only Mom but the maid as well. It never fails. When dishes need done, they rely on me to do them. When clothes need put away... guess what... that's up to me. When toys need picked up... yep you guessed it... that's up to me.

I've tried the Chore list thing several times but they looked at me like I was playing a joke. As I sit here today and think about every thing I plan on doing while my daughter is in school, it occurred to me that darling hubby doesn't have the same plans.

His plans are the normal as any other day when he doesn't work. Sitting in his chair, with his laptop, playing video games, and talking to people on Skype. Now don't get me wrong. I love doing stuff for my family. But when it comes down to picking up tools from the repair of the shelf or toys that made their way to the livingroom.... it becomes quite annoying.

Do you deal with this? If you do and found a way to get the family to do their part, what was it?

AT&T services and dropped calls

I've had a cell phone for about 5 years. Well, I should say with a contract. When I first got my cell phone, my fiance and I went with the best provider in our area. Cellular One. After about two years of service, AT&T bought the rights to Cell One. From that point, my cell phone service has went down hill and has continued to go down hill.

It seems that AT&T claims to have the best 3G network out there. I beg to differ with this. I've lived in several area's where my cell phone doesn't work. For over two years, I lived in Fairview, WV.  Within those two years, I could only use my cell phone when I went into Fairmont. Then, I moved to Masontown, PA. When we first stayed there, our cell phones worked fine. (This was during the merger with the two cell companies) Once the merger was done, so was the cell phone service. I had to walk into town to get service. Let me say this, walking in the cold just to make a phone call sucks.

So, some ask me why I don't just get a house phone. I look at it this way. Number one we were staying with family at the time. Therefore, it wasn't our decision to get a land line phone. Second, I feel that with paying $150.00 - $175.00 a month for cell phone service... we should get awesome service for our hard earned money.

Shortly after this problem arise, we moved to where we live now. Our cell phone service has been touch and go since we moved in over a year ago. As of today, I'm lucky to make or receive phone calls as well as text messages. I can't seem to make any calls at all when I'm at home. I have to walk into town to make calls when my daughter is in school. I don't know about you, but I quite frankly don't want to be making important calls to utility companies and such in public. That's my personal business. Not everyone who walks by.

So, I'm writing this to see if any other AT&T customers out there have any other problems like we are having? If so, have you called about it? I know we've called a million times. We've complained but nothing seems to be getting through to this company.

If things continue to go the way they are, I wont renew my contract. That's for sure.

The Blunt Truth

OK so normally I'm not right out with how I feel. Well, I can't hold my tongue any longer. I love blog hops. I mean love them. Every chance to be part of one, I'm there. I also follow as many blogs as I can. Well, those that are worth the follow anyway. I am not one that likes blogs that focus on giveaways or reviews of stuff.

I also hate and I mean hate when a blog has music on it. If I go to a blog and music starts blasting, I close out on it. I'm there to read not listen to music. If I wanted to listen to music, I'd go turn on the radio. Another thing that bothers me is the "Please type the word to ensure your human." pop ups... this drives me nuts.

OK now that is out of the way. Do you have any plans for your holiday weekend? We really don't. There has been so much going on, we are using this weekend to get caught up on some of the thing we are behind on.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful weekend.

One of The Biggest Things I Hate

I do a lot of reading. Both on my Nook Color and on the Internet. Most of the things I read pertain to parenting and relationships. As I was looking around on the net today, I came across some personal blogs within blogger and other various blogging websites that truely ticked me off. Non-parents giving parenting advice. This just rubbes me the way wrong way and instantly pisses me off.

So, this blog is dedicated to all those "mom wanna-bes". First and foremost, I would like to ask you to just shut the hell up. I don't wanna hear about "if I was his/her mother, I'd do..." Because in the brute reality of it, your not their mother and by not being a mother... you have no freaking clue what you would do. I can honestly say that when I was pregnant, I said several things that started out as, "Oh, my child will NEVER" and ended up doing the complete opposite.

Second, you have no clue what it's like to be an actual parent... even as a step-parent... I feel it's different. Because when it comes to your "step-child" you still have limitations on how you can react in certain situations compared to those who have full control over their child.

Third, don't voice your opinion on my parenting styles or anyone elses for that matter. You can NOT actually be bitching about how I raise my child or how anyone else raises their child. You didn't lay in the hospital, pushing and contracting, in order to bring the child into this world.

Fourth, dont go onto social websites complaining about how you feel parents suck these days. NEWS FLASH.... your not an effin parent therefore what you have to say about someone's  child or their parenting style.... doesn't matter. You don't know what it's really like to be a parent until you carry and give birth.

So, in conclusion, keep all parenting thoughts to yourself until you give birth to your own child! Parenting in itself is a entirely different world then the "what if's and If I was their parent." Now, have a wonderful day.

Sincerely,
A mother to a beautiful little girl!