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Saturday, December 31, 2011

New Years Resolutions....

Normally I don't set any goals for myself because I really suck at meeting them. Well, this year is different. In the 2011 year, I've learned so much (especially from Blogging) and one of those things is how to meet goals. So, I've made a list of those goals that I want to meet within the New Year. Each time I meet one, I'll come back to this post and mark it off.




Well, here's my List:

1. Get Married
2. Get my Dentures
3. Obtain a driver's license (yes I'm 24 and still don't drive... crazy right?)
4. Finish the Silenced Books (Lots of work here)
5. Expand my blog and obtain my own domain address
6. Quit Smoking (This starts very soon)
7. Organize much needed spots within the home
8. Get back into shape (loose weight)

Monday, December 26, 2011

I Caught Santa......

While visiting my Mom for the holidays, my fiance and I created an awesome picture (which I won in a giveaway).... Lil Miss was thrilled.... take a look at who he caught in our house (wink wink)....




Created at:  www.icaughtsanta.com

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays

I just want to wish everyone Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. Hope you have a happy and safe holiday.  See you afterward.



Friday, December 23, 2011

10 of the Most Annoying Things Women Do That Men Dont Say Anything About

It's a proven fact: Men love women. Always have and always will. They love the way they are. Men are fascinated by the way, us women look (both in the morning and after the shower), our smell, and even our little moments we have where we do the most stupid things. Most of the time. they will do anything to ensure their woman is happy.... although there are times we get on their nerves. I've talked to several men and came up with 10 of the most annoying things women do (without realizing it) from a mans point of view.



10. Talk About Other Woman - We get it. Women always try to be the center of attention in our lives. But it doesn't need to be at the expense of another woman. You don't have to point out the "flaws" in other women to get us to see how great you are. We already know. If we didn't think you were great... we wouldn't be with you. We'd walk (or in some cases, run) away. It's, in our opinion, wrong. Some men think it's sexier when a woman compliments another instead of picking the flaws and focusing on them.

9. Step By Step Updates- Women tend to spend a lot of their day updating their social websites with each and every move they plan on doing throughout their day. Honestly, this isn't sexy. Men don't want to know you started your period and have cramps.... or.... if your eating Taco's... Watch how much information you share. Knowing your every step isn't very attractive. Keep the guys guessing as well as the world.

8. Fighting Over The Internet- What man doesn't like the typical cat fight? But when it's all you post about.... many men find it extremely annoying. This just shows trashy instead of classy. This shows the lack of self control and unable to keep your cool. If they take their fights with their girlfriends online.... what will she do when we get into a fight? I know we don't want the entire world to know about our differences. This kind of makes it hard to trust woman and not know what extent they will take things to.

7. Getting to Attached- We enjoy the company. But there's a time when it goes too far. We don't need to be with you all the time. Men need their space too. They expect men to be there at their waking moment in the morning and expect us to be there the moment we get home from work. We need our time too. Then, there are those time when we are out with our friends and all she does is text or call. "I know I'll be happy to share any exciting moments I experienced but it's hard to do this when I have my phone stuck in my hand because I'm replying to a text message or answering her call." Let us have our time without contact. This will only make us miss you more and want to be with you.

6. Constantly Wants To Shop- Women seem to make a shopping trip last all day. They go into the store with their list or with what they need in mind. Then, they take all day just to get everything (and then some). Another thing is when they go into the store to buy something for someone else and seem to only be picking out items they want. Most of the time they don't need it but they buy it anyway. This shows a bit of being selfish. If you go into a store to pick out a gift of some sort, don't buy for yourself as well just because you want it. Save this for another time. Show that you can actually shop for someone other than yourself.

5. Constantly Being Needy- Women tend to get so comfortable in a relationship, they tend to begin to rely on men for every need. It could could be either mental, emotional, or physical. They tend to have the impression that men are there for this purpose. But, in fact, we would like to be on the same level with you. Honestly, we don't want to be the emotional crutch for your insecurities. We don't mind being there sometimes but when it becomes an all the time thing.... it's a huge turn off.

4. Constantly Complaining- Life can be rough sometimes. We all know this. But one thing some women tend to do is complain about everything. They complain about their hair not going right or their weight (even though she looks great the way she is). There can't be that much in life that upsets you and there has to be something that makes you happy. This makes men think you're hard to please which is another turn off.

3. Overly Emotional or constant whining- Women are in touch with their sensitive side. Men know this but sometimes it goes over board. Women who whine about everything get just plain out annoying. They whine about the smallest things such as their hair not going right or they are feeling insecure. They whine about the lady at the store who took too long at the check out or the long line waiting at the bank. They even whine about things men don't actually think about. The constant whining is a mood killer. Then, some women will cry over the smallest thing. Such as taking things the wrong way or looking too far into something that was said. Showing you care is one thing but when that caring turns into constant whining, it makes some men want to run for the door.

2. Constantly Over-dressing- Yes, men like a nice clean look and like women who show they take care of themselves. But there are some women who take this too far. It's extremely annoying to look at a woman and the first thing I notice is the eye make-up she's got on. I don't want her beautiful eyes drowned out with a bright blue or even black. When we plan on a date, it takes them forever to get ready. Your human. Therefore, each strand of hair doesn't need to be perfect. There's really no need to keep running to the bathroom to check your make up. It didn't run away nor is it going to. You look great... put it on (lightly) and forget about it while we are out. This just shows that maybe she will care for herself more then actually spending time with me.

1. Dwelling on the Past- The past is there for a reason so let it go. I don't want to hear about something I did months ago when a disagreement arises. Throwing it up in my face during an argument isn't proving anything except that you have a hard time letting things go. Once it's over and we worked it out, let it go and don't bring it up again. This falls under the nagging as well. Then, sort of a way to punish us, they use sex as a weapon during the fights. We aren't kids. Don't bring up the past and expect us not to react. The same with sex, it's not for your personal enjoyment or your weapon.

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Holiday Surprise

The other day, I had written a blog on my plans changing and it really bummed me out. Come to find out... it all wasn't true. I was led to believe it was but in fact, it was all part of a surprise. I am now blogging from the comfort of my Mom's living room. Therefore, my daughter and I won't be alone for Christmas.

Currently, we are making pillows, cookies, and making memories. My jolly spirit is back and I'm sooo excited for Christmas.

What are you excited for this year?


Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Just Doesn't Feel Like Christmas

I'm sure everyone has had one of these years. Well, this year is mine. For the past week, I've been racking my brain on how I was doing Christmas this year. Hubby works which will leave my daughter and I at home with no car. Therefore, no way to travel and see family. I thought it'd be nice to do our Christmas early and travel to my Mom's for the next few days. Therefore, Little Miss and I would wake up to family and be around others for Christmas.

This sounded like a great plan. Though I hadn't thought of all the stress it would cause. I planned it where we would have our Christmas tonight and my Mom would pick us up on Thursday to go to her house until Sunday. Then, Monday we (hubby including) would go to my Dad's for Christmas Part 3.

That all changed. After we let our daughter open her gifts, I found out it's too much running for me to go to my Moms and plans were changed. Now, not only are we going to be home without a way to see our family. So, my jolly attitude for this year is over. It doesn't feel like Christmas anymore. Due to the plans changing, our Christmas is now over... so I wanted to share the pictures of Little Miss and her favorite gifts....

Our Tree and Little Misses Gifts


Waiting for Mommy to say it was okay to open



Lala Loopsy Doll she just loves.


Little Miss and her Buzz light year

Once I edit the photos, I'll have more later... But until then, here's a video of my daughter saying what she's thankful for.... (a tradition we do before we open our gifts)


video


Friday, December 16, 2011

Worst 911 call.....

I'm under the impression that 911 serves to those citizen who are in the need of help because of an emergency. Though it doesn't always go the way you'd think. Take a look at this video:




Just listening to this has my blood near boiling. No one should ever have to deal with this.

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Christmas Lights 2011---- MUST WATCH

This is amazing. Thank you to all the troops for doing their thing. I appreciate you ALL no matter what branch.


Welfare Bums vs. People Who Need Help

One issue/topic I've seen flooding the internet between blogs and other social media sites are based on the assistance that states provide to their residents in the times of need. I for one have a strong opinion on this because I've walked the "hard" road and needed assistance to help me get through it. I completely understand those who work are tired of pretty much supporting those who abuse the system. Therefore, I decided to enlighten everyone with my thoughts on this issue as well.

First, I do know that everyone who turns to the assistance office for help isn't always those who abuse the system. I don't like hearing when people take advantage of it. When we came up to our rough time in our life, we needed the food stamps to feed our family because the income just wasn't enough. I've read an article where one person was complaining how she saw people use food stamps to buy steak, lobster, and birthday cakes. This made me a little mad. I don't see how this is even relevant to abusing the system. I would have to disagree. I don't think that anyone on "welfare" as a lesser person than I. They deserve nutrition just as much as the working American. On the other hand, she mentioned seeing a guy who ran a small business and bought the food for this business with his food stamps. So, technically the government is running his business that he's getting a profit from. This I felt was wrong. Yes, that's abusing the system.

I think some people don't realize that no all who are getting assistance, aren't low lives who refuse to work. Some just can't help it. I've also seen people post on their Facebook status's something along the lines of: "Well, just paid 6500 to the welfare bums".... or.... "Welfare bums really need to stop being losers and get a job. I'm tired of paying their way through life." Seriously? How ignorant!!!

I have seen the question arise asking if people think those who are on welfare should take a drug test. This one I would agree to. I don't see a problem with it here. It would help "weed" the system out of those who are only there to abuse the system. If I had to do the drug test when I needed the help, I wouldn't have had a problem with it. I know companies make their employers do drug testing so they can work.... I think it's fair to have those seeking assistance/getting assistance to do the same.


Another aspect I've read is where people are in a check out line with a buggy over flowing with food and they pull out a food stamp card while talking on their iPhone. This by far disturbed me. I know when I was getting assistance, there was no way I would be able to afford the iPhone along with the data package monthly. I feel if someone can afford to pay for a smart phone such as the iPhone, they could be using that money to pay their bills or feed their kids. Therefore, not needing as much help.

Then, there are those people who collect Social Security Income and just enjoy life while relaxing all day long. Now, don't get me wrong on this. I'm not talking about those who actually need the disability. I can understand if a hard working man takes a fall at work and gets injured... and can't work anymore due to this fall. I can't understand where those who have gotten by only because they are to lazy to go to work or make a bunch of excuses (such as I'm depressed, I'm diabetic, I have social anxiety) even when those around them know damn well they are pretty much just sick in their heads. This again, is abusing the system.

When I faced financial hardship and turned to the assistance office, I only used the resources I needed. (Food Stamps and medical for my child). I had WIC offered to me but declined only because I know the food that came in the checks, my daughter doesn't eat. Therefore, I wouldn't be taking food out of a child's mouth who needs it just because I qualified for it. If only everyone thought this way at times.

So, in conclusion this post isn't written to offend. These are just my responses to some of the articles and posts I've read on this subject.

Do you think everyone who applies for assistance should be drug tested? What are your thoughts on those who abuse the system?

Sunday, December 11, 2011

ATTN: Bloggers.....

Are you interested in guest blogging here at Rae Beth's Corner?

I'm looking for several bloggers at this time to come and join in with me, for FREE. There's absolutely no cost however I do ask that you mention in a post on your blog about you being a guest here at Rae Beth's Corner and provide my button within your post.

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Saturday, December 10, 2011

Taking Things For Granted.....

Ten years ago, I wouldn't have told you that I would have seen myself sitting here in my kitchen being thankful for the things such as solid foods, cold drinks, or any other thing we take in our daily lives for granted.

On November 14th, I had a full mouth extraction. Yes, as some already know I'm only twenty-four years old. Due to medical needs, I had to have every tooth pulled. Here it is almost four weeks later and I want to share more of this journey with you. First, this is what I looked like two days after the surgery. (Remember it's taking a lot to share this.)



I've been thinking about sharing this just didn't know how much I would actually touch with my words. I'd like to see this post make you think. Let me tell you that I regret not being thankful for having my teeth when they were healthy. Living with out them at this moment in time is hard.

I am completely embarrassed with how I look. My image has changed so much. I can't even bare looking in the mirror but I go about my day not even thinking about this. Some would think it wouldn't be that bad. Well, at times it is. Like when I'm hungry and I see people around me eating foods I love. I just want to grab some as well but then I remember I can't really chew it. So, I go to the cabinet and grab more soup or pasta. At this point that's pretty much what I can eat.

About five days after my surgery, I was out shopping with my Mom even though I didn't want to. But I had no choice. I felt like everyone was looking at me. At first I couldn't deal with the cold which in turn made my jaw hurt. I didn't eat so we decided to stop at Bob Evans. This way I could take my pain meds as well. While we were there, I saw my mom and her husband order some great looking food.

After our food arrived, my step dad started complaining about not getting all of his bacon he ordered. They forgot one piece. I was baffled by this. Here he was ABLE to eat bacon and all he could do was think about that one strip of bacon. WOW... was all I thought. So, I told him, "At least you can eat it. Just be thankful for that."

After saying this I looked at my mom and said "It's amazing how much in life we take for granted." While they enjoyed their nice hot solid meals, I enjoyed mashed potatoes and gravy with hot coco. And even tried a strawberry smoothy, thinking the cold would help my swelling.

So, the moral of this story is to be thankful for EVERYTHING in life. Not just the big stuff.

What small thing in your life are you thankful for?

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

I am NOT the House Maid.....

One thing that I think my family has set in their mind is that I'm not only Mom but the maid as well. It never fails. When dishes need done, they rely on me to do them. When clothes need put away... guess what... that's up to me. When toys need picked up... yep you guessed it... that's up to me.

I've tried the Chore list thing several times but they looked at me like I was playing a joke. As I sit here today and think about every thing I plan on doing while my daughter is in school, it occurred to me that darling hubby doesn't have the same plans.


His plans are the normal as any other day when he doesn't work. Sitting in his chair, with his laptop, playing video games, and talking to people on Skype. Now don't get me wrong. I love doing stuff for my family. But when it comes down to picking up tools from the repair of the shelf or toys that made their way to the livingroom.... it becomes quite annoying.

Do you deal with this? If you do and found a way to get the family to do their part, what was it?

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Video From Santa to Your Child

I found a pretty awesome website that allows you to create a video in a few short steps to send to your child from Santa. I created one and my daughter loved it. Check out her video: Emma's Video From Santa





You can make one too. Here!!!

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Best Left Buried Book Review


                               
Book Title: Best Left Buried






Author: Cindy Hutchins
ISBN: 9781618423634

Arliss Pardot was found as a child in a house with a corpse and hundreds of caged birds. She was adopted and forgot everything. Now, the death of her birth mother in mental institution in North Carolina brings her back to a town full of dark, forgotten secrets - secrets which are Best left Buried.



Review:

Best Left Buried is a great horror story that takes you on a journey that is both confusing and captivating. The story pulls you right in. Arliss Pardot lives a life that's unspeakable as a child. Once she's adobted, she decides to forget the past and plan for the future with Nick, her love. This all changes when she gets a call saying her birth mother has passed and shes needed to return to North Carolina for the funeral. Upon her arrival, Arliss realizes something isn't right. Before she realizes it, she finds she's the key to the local mystery and legend.


Best left Buried is a book one could read and not want to put down. The journey keeps pulling you in more and more. It leaves you wanting to know more. Christmas is right around the corner and Best Left Buried would make the perfect gift for a loved one who loves horror stories.

Best Left Buried is available on Amazon and at other retailers.


I received one or more of the products mentioned above for free using Tomoson.com. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers.

Secret Santa... MUST READ



As I was doing my normal this morning.... Like reading news posting on the local news website and making my rounds on Yahoo.... I came across this wonderful story about a Secret Santa. I personally know what it's like to struggle during the Christmas season. As a matter of fact, this year is one of those years. But who hasn't faced a struggle during Christmas??

This amazing man who only identified himself as the "Secret Santa" travels to places and looks for those who may be in need. Once he finds the perfect person that he's looking for.... you ready for this... he talks to them and then hands them $100 cash. Then, wishes them a Merry Christmas....



If this interests you.... check out the full story here: Secret Santa (Full Story)

Picture from Yahoo.