Love

Love?

–noun

1.

a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

2.

a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.

3.

sexual passion or desire.

I was always taught when I was younger that true love is rare to find. When it’s actually found, it seems that your world won’t go on without that person or at least that is what it will seem like. It’s an unexplainable feeling to most. Love is exhilarating. The feelings seem to never end or die for those who actually found it. In my mind, love is so many things and so much more than what actually meets the human eye. It’s so much deeper than what human beings can actually explain.

I have been in only a few relationships where I would have believed love existed. But I think that once two people have been together for a certain amount of time, the true meaning of love becomes questionable. Do we really find love in a life time? Or is it something that only so many people in this world experience. In my experience, the beginnings of relationships are exciting. When there’s a strong physical attraction, I think this can trick the mind into believing it’s love. Then, after so long, “love” turns into an addiction to that person.

I think that people grow to what they open themselves up to in the beginningof the relationship and in the long run find themselves disappointed. Then, there are those people that actually found true love.  In reality, I’m no expert on love. But I can talk from experience. I still believe I have yet to find and experience true love. I don’t believe love is materialistic. Yes, buying flowers, jewelry, and things helps those to express love. 

But what happens when there’s really no love left but the addiction is still there? A few examples: Couples tend to go their separate ways and do their own “thing.” But the addiction is has become so strong that neither seem to realize it’s really not love anymore. Other activities in life become more important then that person.  Hobby’s tend to become the distraction at times. Examples: gaming, reading, writing, friends, family…. All these tend to over ride the need and want of a person in a relationship where love has failed to exist.  The new and exciting is gone and this is what seems to be left.

In conclusion, when in Love, I feel that the need to give those feelings attention and time is so important.  Taking the time to nourish those feelings help them to grow stronger and makes it harder for the Love to diminish.